Have you ever noticed that everyone else has the answer to
just need to snap out of it!
heals all wounds
were me, I would
… (my favorite J)
Truth: grief is as complicated as each of us is
who think grief can be reduced to a simple definition, or timeline
with phase completion dates — have never ridden the roller
coaster of emotional pain. It’s
not as “easy” as some want you to think. It takes time … and it takes God. Yet even then, we sometimes wonder if we’ll ever make it
through the maze of personal pain …
Will I Get Over This?
a simple question with a complex answer since grief is unique.
Examples: The grieving process for a family losing a
grandfather to Alzheimer’s is different from a wife who loses
her husband in an accident. And
her grief is different from a marriage breakup or a patient
diagnosed with cancer.
While common denominators exist, each is individual.
And even though you never “get over it,” with God’s
help, you can move past it.
However, if you think all you must do is read the Bible and
pray — and Poof! — the nasty disappears — think
again. First, you
never forget the person for whom you grieve. Second,
there will be days you take two steps forward and three back.
Often the slightest nudge from your past uncovers raw
emotions you thought were left behind.
facts you must know:
is no completion date for the grieving process.
We don’t want to hear that because we want things to be
orderly and organized. Even
the various stages of grief are not a “check-off” list.
and women handle grief differently.
is a private journey — which means …
you will always be a work in progress.
It is amazing the number of people who get
“stuck” — and it happens regardless of the tragedy.
Thus, life grinds to a halt as every conversation and
activity relates back to the accident, diagnoses, divorce, etc.
As a result, some live in a perpetual time warp as “The
Tragedy” comes to define who they are.
are stages of grief …
________ - usually doesn’t last long.
Because we have to eat and make a living, life has a way of
moving us forward. While
this stage is the birthplace of grief, it cannot be the resting
divorce, we may lash out at our spouse or in death, we may even
lash out at God. While
this is a normal emotion, it must be short-lived (Eph.4:26-27).
The greatest opportunity we can give Satan is to harbor
is the pit of overwhelming hopelessness (Ps.119:25).
Some of God’s greatest servants did battle here (Ps.88:1-6). Thus, if the “greats” of the Bible had their “down
time,” then why are we surprised when we suffer the same?
Depression is emotional super-glue — and it’s easy to
Some need medical help.
Sometimes we view physicians who treat the mind as
“suspect.” Thus, “Read your Bible and pray” is the quick
and easy cure-all to every problem.
While it is the ultimate cure-all, there may be more
needed. It’s the same reason we don’t tell a man with a broken
leg to “Read your Bible and pray.”
He needs to read his Bible and pray but he ALSO needs
how did it happen?
__________ clearly, vv.1-3a.
Fear is debilitating.
Laying prayer aside, he focused on fear.
separated himself from his
The human tendency is to get discouraged and seek
however, feeds on loneliness (Eccl.4:9-10).
fell into the trap of
Things God Did to Help Get Him “Unstuck”
_____ & _____, vv.5-6.
It’s amazing how better you feel when you take care of
your physical self. Life-survivors
are not super men and women, but people who believe that in spite
of the tragedy, life is still worth living.
It wasn’t, Get on your feet you bumbling prophet …
And quit your belly-aching!
God knew Elijah needed calm reassurance.
As a result, God did not speak to him from the wind, or
earthquake, or fire, but in the sound of a “gentle blowing.”
made him feel
________ again, vv.15-16,18.
You are valuable to Me … You are still in My plans …
By the way - you’re not the only one … There are 7,000 waiting
to hear My word — from you!
God gave Elijah every reason to live.
And while you may not have 7,000 depending upon you, there
is probably someone — and several someone(s).
gave him a precious gift — a ________, v.19.
Life is filled with defining moments that are often
defining moments, however, are not interruptions on the path of
your progress — they are the path of your progress!
And you can become bitter or better.
It’s a choice God gives to each.
Here it is: Even
though life is hard, don’t give up on God.
For some reason, He isn’t finished with you as yet (2
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